INFJs are complicated and amazing people. We are so different from others that sometimes we get wrapped up in focusing on those differences instead of focusing on ourselves and seeing the advantages that we have.
With the good, there is also some not so good. Every personality type has areas that they aren’t as strong in and things that they need to work on. We are no different. Let’s take a look at our strengths and weaknesses.
INFJs have an amazing intuition that is active all of the time. It operates without us even realizing what is happening. We analyze things in the background of our minds and come to conclusions about people and things very quickly. We can see right through people very soon after meeting them because of this. Manipulation and lies don’t work on us most of the time.
We see how things are connected and can sort through problems very quickly as well. We use our insight so see exactly what’s going on and find creative and efficient ways to fix problems.
Our creative imagination helps us to solve problems of all kinds. We can see systems as work and analyze them for efficiency and effectiveness.
We can also solve human problems like communication and misunderstandings. We are great at learning the communication style of those around us and being able to understand what they are saying and what they aren’t saying as well. Then we can interpret it for others to resolve issues.
Most INFJs are very skilled at understanding the needs of those around them and striving to do whatever they can to help them. We generally have years of practice in this area. We can also use our intuition to pick up on their needs.
INFJs have an amazing ability to understand all different kinds of personality types. We are natural empaths who understand things that we have not even experienced ourselves. We can feel the feelings of those close to us. This unique ability helps us to relate to them and literally feel their pain.
Because we relate so well to others we can easily determine what they need and how to motivate them. We are amazing at connecting with people in this way especially if we are speaking about something that we enjoy and are passionate about. It shines through in our words.
When an INFJ sets their mind to do something they will pursue it with a passion and determination that will astonish even their closest friends. We are not afraid to dream big dreams and put in the work to accomplish them. INFJs are also not afraid to stand up for what they believe in. This doesn’t always sit well with those around us, but we rarely let that hold us back.
Whether we like to admit it or not, INFJs are extremely sensitive. We take words straight to heart, especially criticism. We are quick to shut down in the face of conflict just to process what we are thinking and feeling. When we are pushed too far our reaction can be very uncharacteristic of our normal personality. Our responses can be sharp and brutal as a result of an attack on our values.
INFJs are extremely private. We have very strong and deep emotions that we do not like to share with others. We protect these things fiercely in order to protect ourselves. It takes us a while to open up to new people. It’s a long an complicated process getting to know new people.
We like things to be perfect. We spend a lot of time in our heads imagining the perfect future down to the smallest detail. When reality doesn’t match up to that vision it can be hard for us to deal with.
We also get stuck in planning mode. We don’t want to start a project until we have it perfectly planned out and know exactly how it will turn out. This tendency leaves us with lots of plans and not nearly as many actions.
Need lots of alone time
As empaths, INFJs soak up the feelings and emotions of those around them. We take on all of these things as well as our own. The way that we process all of this is by spending time alone. We chose to spend a lot of time alone.
All of this alone time can lead to broken friendships, leaving the INFJ completely alone, if they are not careful.
At the end of the day…
Although we can’t necessarily choose our personality I know that I am happy to be INFJ. I love that we can see these strengths and weaknesses and figure out how to make the most out of all of them. We may not have chosen to be INFJ, but we can certainly embrace and celebrate it!
I used to have this boss that would ask me to come into his office from time to time. He’d say something like this: “Your work is great! It’s some of the best I’ve seen. But your personality is really crappy. It’s so terrible that no one likes you or wants to be around you….
Working on our weaknesses can be a healthy and important part of self-improvement. But it’s not something that should consume us or take up all our energy. There are some things that are just not our strong points. It’s perfectly ok to accept those parts of yourself, without feeling a need to alter them.
It’s dangerous for INFJs to talk about our weaknesses. We like to fix things so when we talk about things that we’re not good at we immediately start thinking about how to fix them. Do our weaknesses really need to be fixed? Is that something we should focus on and obsess about?