Not only is 2020 a new year, but it’s a brand new decade as well. It feels like an even bigger fresh start. It’s a time to sit back and think about where you want to be a year from now and 10 years from now. What needs to change in your life?
I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I can up with a whole list of things that I’d like to let go of, improve, start doing, and some special things for me as well.
Things to let go of
1. Let go of other people’s opinions
The first thing that I want to let go of this year is other people’s opinions of me. It’s so easy for us INFJs to take on other people’s feelings and emotions, especially their opinions. When I was younger, if someone told me something I just believed them. I figured it they said it, it must be true. But the older I get the more I listen with a critical ear. Now I analyze things that people tell me to see if they fit within my standards and my beliefs. It’s still hard for me to not accept their opinions of me, but this is something that I’m planning on leaving behind and letting go of.
2. Leave the past in the past
We have a tendency to reminisce about the past and romanticize it. We remember things better than what they actually were. There are a couple of things in my life that I am sad that I left and wonder if I should go back or try again. But then I have to stop and really think about why I left. There was a good reason. And if I put a little bit of effort into remembering it as it was, usually I can remember why I left in the first place.
I want to leave this all behind this year and leave the past in the past. No more looking back. I’m not going that way. That door closed for a reason and it’s time to think about what’s in front of me.
3. Walk away from toxic people
As INFJs we are attracted to toxic people like magnets. We get so used to being treated poorly that we start to believe that we don’t deserve better. This year I want to leave this behind and these people behind as well.
4. Release those people I’m hanging onto
I tend to go after people that I want to be friends with with a vengeance. Of course, they get scared and run away. Then I’ll just keep running after them, wondering what is wrong with them. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done this. But I’ve learned that in a healthy relationship both parties show up equally. You shouldn’t have to chase your friends. They should want to be friends with you as much as you want to be friends with them. And if they don’t show up, then let them go.
5. Let go of my expectations of my life
I love to dream about the future. This is a wonderful and amazing thing, but it’s also very dangerous. I’ve been thinking about what my life would be like for so long and I have this grand idea in my head of what it should be. It leads me into so much heartache and disappointment. This year I want to let go of what I think should be and be more open to what is and what could be.
Things to improve
6. Reduce screen time
Hi, I’m Sarah and I’m a screen time addict. I have my iPhone within an arm’s reach at all times and usually my iPad and MacBook Air as well. I get very wrapped up in the digital world and too concerned about what’s going on in other people’s lives. I want to spend more time doing other things this year.
7. Make my health a priority
I’m not a spring chicken anymore, as much as I don’t want to admit it. There are things that are already falling apart. It’s high time that I put my health at the top of my list or nothing else really matters.
8. Spend more time outdoors
I’m not an outdoorsy person. I love air conditioning and a warm, cozy bed. But I know that I feel better when I get outside consistently and soak up some vitamin D from the sunshine. So I’m making that a priority as well.
9. A routine self-care practice
My self-care practice is sporadic at best. This year I am making a schedule and sticking to it. I know that self-care only works well when it’s consistent, so let’s make it a habit!
10. Communication with the people I care about
I am terrible at communication. I’m just gonna throw that out there. Sometimes my friends call me just to see if I’m still alive, cause it’s been that long since I’ve called them. This year I’m making it a priority to reach out to them more consistently and let them know that I do value them a lot.
Things to start
11. Making myself a priority
I have a lot of priorities this year, but I’m putting myself on the list as well. All too often I find myself on my own back burner, but this year I’m changing my ways. This year I am armed with the knowledge that I am just as important as everyone else on my list and I deserve better.
12. Getting control of the things that feel out of control
There are a couple of things that feel out of control in my life. For me it’s the amount of money I spend and what I eat. I feel like if I could get control of those 2 things I could do anything. So I’m putting in the effort to tackle these goals.
13. Being more accepting of others
As INFJs we are constant contradictions. I find myself being very accepting of people I like but very judgmental of people I don’t like. This year, I want to spread that acceptance and compassion a bit wider and show people more love and understanding.
14. Living more in the moment
I’m great at future planning, but not so great at being in the moment and enjoying what is going on right now. I’m always wishing for something new or waiting for what I hope is coming. This year I want to be more present and more thankful for what is.
15. Dreaming big
Like I said, I’m great at dreaming big for my life plans. But I have never seen myself as a business owner until last year. So this year I want to start dreaming big about my business and what it will be in the next couple of years.
Things to do for me
16. Learn something new
I’m good a getting stuck in a routine that I like, doing the same thing all of the time. I even like to eat the same thing. But this year I want to make an effort to do something new every once in a while. After all, you never know what you could be missing, right?
17. Meet someone new
OMG this is hard for me. I have avoided dating like the PLAGUE for a long time. It’s just so awful and I hate it. But the thing is I want to be married and have a family and that requires meeting new people. Stay tuned for more about this. I’m sure it will be a whole thing.
18. Putting myself out there more
I love staying at home in my own little bubble and hiding from the world. Last year I dabbled a bit with videos and YouTube but I haven’t done as much as I would like to because I don’t like to be seen. But this year I am facing that fear head-on and getting it done.
19. Get back to me
Someone asked me a while ago, how do you know who you really are? As INFJs we put on this front for everyone, what we think they will like. So when we decide to not do that anymore, it can be difficult because we don’t know who we even are. I want to spend some time figuring that out this year.
20. Find self-love
My biggest goal this year is to find self-love. Its something that I think about every day and can’t seem to get away from. I want to figure out what it means to me and put it into practice in my everyday life.
I hope you find some inspiration in my goals for 2020. I really want to see you living your best life as well and doing all of the things you hope for and dream about.
