As INFJs we are constantly looking to learn and grow, especially about ourselves and our personalities. We’re always striving to be better than what we were before, to be the best version of ourselves.
This past year has been such an amazing growth and learning experience for me. I’ve really focused on some of the things that I’ve been sure have been holding me back. Things like a lack of self-confidence, not being focused and not feeling motivated. I wanted to get crystal clear on my life’s purpose and my goals, both short term and long term.
I want to share with you some of the books that have helped me the most.
Built to Serve by Evan Carmichael
Find your life’s purpose
As INFJs we struggle to find our purpose in life. It’s just a part of our personality and how we process the world around us. But a fellow INFJ, Evan Carmichael, has all the answers for us. His book Built To Serve has changed my life and I’m sure it will change yours too. He says, “Your purpose comes from your pain.” He includes multiple practice exercises to help you work through the process of finding your true purpose in life and how you can really help people.
The INFJ Revolution by Lauren Sapala
Find your true self
What does it really mean to be an INFJ? Lauren Sapala has it all figured out. As an INFJ she’s been there and done that. She walks us through a deep understanding of what it means to be INFJ, how to find your purpose and how to reclaim your power in this crazy world.
Quiet by Susan Cain
Find your power as an introvert
Susan Cain single-handedly changed the way the world looks at introverts. She started a revolution with this amazing book that explains everything about our introverted personality. She gives us the permission to be different than what is generally accepted.
The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins
Change your habits in 5 seconds
5, 4, 3, 2, 1… change. That’s all it takes. 5 seconds. Mel Robbins breaks down this life-changing hack to change your habits in this amazing book. It’s changed my life in so many ways. Any time that I’m struggling with doing something new, even when I want to do it, I feel stuck and not able to help myself. But I think back to this rule and start counting backwards. Basically, you have 5 seconds to take action on doing the thing you want to do before your brain will default to what you’ve always done. If you want to change you have to take action in those 5 seconds. I guarantee you it will change your life too.
Do It Scared by Ruth Soukup
Life-changing ways to fight through the fear
We all have fear. Every single one of us. Ruth Soukup tells us that there are different kinds of fear and when you understand what kind of fear you have then you can combat it a lot better. She also provides us with this life-changing mantra: Do it Scared. Whatever it is that you’re thinking about doing, when you’re scared to take action just do it scared. Take action even though you’re scared. This is my favorite saying of all time. I use it everyday.
May Cause Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein
Be open to seeing things differently
Do you need a miracle in your life? Start here. This book is a 40 day guide to facing your fears and changing the way you look at the world. You’ll be surprised the miracles show up in your life when you let go of fear and choose love instead.
Don’t Keep Your Day Job by Cathy Heller
Do what you want to do with your life
I never wanted to start my own business until I started listening to Cathy Heller’s podcast, that’s also called Don’t Keep Your Day Job. She’s an amazing inspiration and a treasure trove of motivation and self-confidence. She made me see that I am capable of being my own boss and it’s not nearly as scary as I thought it would be. In fact, it’s an exciting adventure! It’s more about freedom than anything else.
If you’re interested in starting your own business, or if you just hate your job and want to do something different, you should check out this book. It’s everything you need from motivation to practical steps to take to get started.
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